צו פראקטאצירן די 12 סטעפס איז דא פארשידענע מהלכים, יעדע מהלך האט זיך זיינע הצלחות ראטע, מיר זענען דא נישט ממליץ וועליכע עס איז בעסער און מער ווירקזאם, ווייל דאס איז באמת נישט שייך צו זאגן, מיר ברענגן נאר אהער די אינפארמאציע פאר דער וואס ווייסט שוין וועליכע ריכטינג ער גייט נעמען ער זאל דורך אונזער סייד קענען צוקומען דערצו.
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Joining a live 12-Step SA (sexaholics anonymous) group is perhaps the most powerful tool available for overcoming sexual
addiction, however it is not for everyone. For people who are acting-out live (with real people), then SA is indeed the suggested course of action. But for those who are struggling with porn and masturbation, it is not always the way to go. There are a few drawbacks / dangers in joining such groups if the person does not really need them (sort of like taking chemo treatments for a common flu, which can do more harm than good).
If a person is not really ready (hit bottom), they can sometimes learn worse things in the groups. Although many groups have frum Jews, the groups are also made up of non-Jews and even sometimes members of the opposite sex. The sharing that happens in the groups can sometimes open up new ideas in an addict’s mind. Also, anonymity is a big inhibitor for people coming from the insular religious communities. Although the groups are very careful about protecting members anonymity, it is still challenging to join face-to-face meetings, especially when dealing with such sensitive issues.
That is why Rabbi / Dr. Abraham Twerski suggests that people try GYE’s anonymous phone conferences first, before trying live groups. Even though live group support is more powerful than phone support, the possible risks can sometimes outweigh the benefits (depending on the person’s situation).
So before considering live groups, have you tried all the other tools we offer? See here for information on GYE’s anonymous 12-Step phone conferences. And see the 10 suggestions on our “First Time Here” page. Make sure you read our handbook, sign up for the daily chizuk e-mails, post on the forum, get yourself a partner/sponsor through our partner program, try the powerful TaPHSiC method, etc…
If you have tried all these things and are still experiencing falls, and if you indeed feel your life is unmanageable and you are powerless to stop, then live groups may be the best next step for you. If you need more advice on whether to join a live group, call our hotline at 646-600-8100, Ext. 2 > 2. If you're in Israel, call 1599-500-119.
Finding a Live SA Group
If after consultation and introspection you decide that live 12-Step groups are indeed appropriate for your situation, go to www.sa.org to search for a group in your area (if you are in Europe, go to sexaholicsanonymous.eu). You can also call the SA central number (toll free) 866-424-8777 or E-mail: This e-mail address is being protected from spambots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it
If you you’d like a frum contact who can guide you to a group in your area, write to This e-mail address is being protected from spambots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it . We have frum SA contacts in the following cities:
- Brooklyn
- Monsey
- Williamsburg
- Lakewood
- Crown Heights
- The Five Towns
- Connecticut
- Los Angeles
- London
- Manchester
- Gateshead
- Israel
- Toronto
- Montreal
- Kitchener